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]]> By: Shayari sms http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-1095 Shayari sms Fri, 04 Jun 2010 04:35:59 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-1095 Hey dear can i publish some part of your article on my small blog of university.I have to publish a good pages out there and i really think your post Fits best into it.I will be glad to give you an source link as well.I have two blogs one my own and the other which is my college blog.I will write some part in the university blog.Hope you do not mind.Greetings Hey dear can i publish some part of your article on my small blog of university.I have to publish a good pages out there and i really think your post Fits best into it.I will be glad to give you an source link as well.I have two blogs one my own and the other which is my college blog.I will write some part in the university blog.Hope you do not mind.Greetings

]]> By: Meryl Russo http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-328 Meryl Russo Thu, 03 Sep 2009 20:23:47 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-328 Ichak, A few things. Michael told me that you are recovering from surgery. I hope and pray that it is a fast and easy recovery for you. It is also a great time to practice your power to say no, yes? I just love reading these. They are always so inspiring and I pass them on to many of my friends. Your sharing makes a huge difference. Michael and I plan to see you on the 9th. We will check in beforehand. If it does not work for you, feel free to use your no and we will understand. That's family. Be well.love to Nurit, Sassa and the rest of the family. M Meryl Russo Advertising Sales Manager FamilyFun Magazine Phone: 818-955-4704 Fax: 818-955-7474 Address: 3800 W. Alameda Ave. 17th Floor Burbank, CA 91505 IM: merylrusso Ichak,

A few things.

Michael told me that you are recovering from surgery. I hope and pray that it is a fast and easy recovery for you. It is also a great time to practice your power to say no, yes?

I just love reading these. They are always so inspiring and I pass them on to many of my friends. Your sharing makes a huge difference.

Michael and I plan to see you on the 9th. We will check in beforehand. If it does not work for you, feel free to use your no and we will understand. That’s family.

Be well.love to Nurit, Sassa and the rest of the family.

M

Meryl Russo
Advertising Sales Manager
FamilyFun Magazine

Phone: 818-955-4704
Fax: 818-955-7474
Address: 3800 W. Alameda Ave. 17th Floor
Burbank, CA 91505
IM: merylrusso

]]> By: Sílvia http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-221 Sílvia Tue, 11 Aug 2009 21:33:53 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-221 Dear Adizes I have had very nice moments in front of your articles ... Gradually I came to know the books, dvd's ... now meet with you every day writing in my e-mail. I love this text. Very insightful and coherent. You become the "no" in liberating attitude ... Thanks and kisses pesquisar Dear Adizes
I have had very nice moments in front of your articles … Gradually I came to know the books, dvd’s … now meet with you every day writing in my e-mail.
I love this text. Very insightful and coherent. You become the “no” in liberating attitude …
Thanks and kisses
pesquisar

]]> By: Tom Howard http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-205 Tom Howard Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:05:38 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-205 I've been a huge fan of Osho for many years. You might also enjoy Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth" if this brilliant book hasn't yet found you ;-) http://eckharttolle.com/a_new_earth Peace and love. Tom. I’ve been a huge fan of Osho for many years. You might also enjoy Eckhart Tolle’s “A New Earth” if this brilliant book hasn’t yet found you ;-)

http://eckharttolle.com/a_new_earth

Peace and love.

Tom.

]]> By: Tony http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-204 Tony Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:05:22 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-204 Interesting. G Gordon Liddy wrote a book called "Will" which in many ways is the ultimate "no" path. And there is no doubt that all can benefit from saying "no" to a great many modern indulgences. Some impulses should be said "no" to, it is certain. I've found that followinga "no" path can just as often lead to, unfortunately, a period of "no" followed by an unnatural period of pent-up demand for the unhealth thing that was refused- think Oprah's decades of weight-loss and weight-gain. "No" definitely has a role, but it is not the answer itself. What we seek is a path which will not devolve into extremes of abstinence and indulgence. As we cannot solve problems at the same level of consciousness we were at when we created them, we must therefore shift up. I am increasingly convinced that this requires a verticle shift in perspective rather than a horizontal shifting from "no" to "yes" and back again. "No" is a great method for giving the space you need to potentially make this shift. It is a tool, but not the path itself I think. Interesting. G Gordon Liddy wrote a book called “Will” which in many ways is the ultimate “no” path. And there is no doubt that all can benefit from saying “no” to a great many modern indulgences. Some impulses should be said “no” to, it is certain. I’ve found that followinga “no” path can just as often lead to, unfortunately, a period of “no” followed by an unnatural period of pent-up demand for the unhealth thing that was refused- think Oprah’s decades of weight-loss and weight-gain. “No” definitely has a role, but it is not the answer itself.

What we seek is a path which will not devolve into extremes of abstinence and indulgence. As we cannot solve problems at the same level of consciousness we were at when we created them, we must therefore shift up. I am increasingly convinced that this requires a verticle shift in perspective rather than a horizontal shifting from “no” to “yes” and back again. “No” is a great method for giving the space you need to potentially make this shift. It is a tool, but not the path itself I think.

]]> By: Yehoram Uziel http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-203 Yehoram Uziel Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:05:05 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-203 Ichak, I read your insights about the jungle that we are in and the power to say NO and here are some of my thoughts. The power to say no is a nice concept, but it does not stand on its own. It requires a complimentary definition and that is “no to what”. It also requires an understanding of what is the available choices. While saying NO to temptations, addictions etc, is a great and powerful concept, lets not forget that one needs to have good judgment and skills to IDENTIFY what should we say No to and what should we not. Also let’s remember that each time that we consider saying NO to an essential activity, we must have more than one alternative. Example, saying NO to junk food assumes that we have access to healthy food; and what if we don’t? How should we apply the concept of the power to say no (which have solid arguments on the personal level) to the corporate life. What is a corporate “temptation” / “addiction” and how do we define them? What methodology can be used to identify decision making processes as temptations or addictions and how do we get an organization the power to say NO. Easy to say that “short term gratification” which is reflected in manipulating stock prices of public companies can be compared to eating junk food. However some public companies who have no “hard assets” and can not raise money because they can not collateralize debt, has no choice but to promote their stock price for their survival. Darwin’s theory was about survival and not about choice. Had Darwin analyzed choices and not only a linear algorithm of (alleged) survival, his theory might have been different. Although it is hard to say no to personal temptations it is much different and easier than similar situation in the corporate life. While being your own Tsar is not easy, appointing a Tsar to an organization is a short term solution, which never lasts too long. Respectfully, Yehoram Ichak,

I read your insights about the jungle that we are in and the power to say NO and here are some of my thoughts.

The power to say no is a nice concept, but it does not stand on its own. It requires a complimentary definition and that is “no to what”. It also requires an understanding of what is the available choices.

While saying NO to temptations, addictions etc, is a great and powerful concept, lets not forget that one needs to have good judgment and skills to IDENTIFY what should we say No to and what should we not. Also let’s remember that each time that we consider saying NO to an essential activity, we must have more than one alternative.

Example, saying NO to junk food assumes that we have access to healthy food; and what if we don’t?

How should we apply the concept of the power to say no (which have solid arguments on the personal level) to the corporate life. What is a corporate “temptation” / “addiction” and how do we define them? What methodology can be used to identify decision making processes as temptations or addictions and how do we get an organization the power to say NO.

Easy to say that “short term gratification” which is reflected in manipulating stock prices of public companies can be compared to eating junk food. However some public companies who have no “hard assets” and can not raise money because they can not collateralize debt, has no choice but to promote their stock price for their survival.

Darwin’s theory was about survival and not about choice.

Had Darwin analyzed choices and not only a linear algorithm of (alleged) survival, his theory might have been different.

Although it is hard to say no to personal temptations it is much different and easier than similar situation in the corporate life. While being your own Tsar is not easy, appointing a Tsar to an organization is a short term solution, which never lasts too long.

Respectfully,

Yehoram

]]> By: Andrea Gold http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-202 Andrea Gold Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:04:48 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-202 This is a wise commentary on life. Guess I am one who marches to my own drummer. And it empowers me. And I am accountable for the results of my actions. I cannot blame others because I made my own decisions about what to eat or not eat, do or not do, rest or work, etc. Now, if only I can carve out more time for myself...that weekend day off idea is virtuous. And I have no one to blame but myself for the time off I take or the extra workload I do. It's YOUR life. Whatcha gonna do with it? (That's my favorite saying and I plan to write on that some day soon!). Warmest regards to all who read this-*go live your own life and make your own choices!* Andrea Gold (www.goldstars.com) This is a wise commentary on life. Guess I am one who marches to my own drummer. And it empowers me. And I am accountable for the results of my actions. I cannot blame others because I made my own decisions about what to eat or not eat, do or not do, rest or work, etc.
Now, if only I can carve out more time for myself…that weekend day off idea is virtuous. And I have no one to blame but myself for the time off I take or the extra workload I do. It’s YOUR life. Whatcha gonna do with it? (That’s my favorite saying and I plan to write on that some day soon!).
Warmest regards to all who read this-*go live your own life and make your own choices!*
Andrea Gold (www.goldstars.com)

]]> By: Ruscha Robbins http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-201 Ruscha Robbins Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:04:21 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-201 Thank you for stating so clearly what I have not been able to put my finger on as I have drifted along, not realising the riptide had me by the ankles. Regaining the power to say no feels so much better than the slow seduction of the smooth yes. Thank you for stating so clearly what I have not been able to put my finger on as I have drifted along, not realising the riptide had me by the ankles.
Regaining the power to say no feels so much better than the slow seduction of the smooth yes.

]]> By: Dr. Uri Ben Nesher http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-200 Dr. Uri Ben Nesher Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:04:04 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-200 Dear Dr. Ichak Kalderon Adizes. It is all about optimize decisions making and choosing the best way we want to go. It is wrong to automatically say "no" as it wrong to automatically say "yes". Not as other species, men have big brain to do thinking and clever decisions. We have to decide firstly what our life goals are and what our guide lines of norms and ethics boundaries are. Then it'll be our guide lines to better decisions making. We've to say "yes" to technology improvement, to intensive cultivation (so everybody can eat), to medicine technology improvement, to communication technology improvement, to shortening work time (to get more family & fun time), to learning and self developing. So, don’t be envious to any kind of extreme, act wisely and choose the best decisions for you. Sincerely Dr. Uri Ben Nesher Dear Dr. Ichak Kalderon Adizes.

It is all about optimize decisions making and choosing the best way we want to go.
It is wrong to automatically say “no” as it wrong to automatically say “yes”.

Not as other species, men have big brain to do thinking and clever decisions.
We have to decide firstly what our life goals are and what our guide lines of norms and ethics boundaries are. Then it’ll be our guide lines to better decisions making.

We’ve to say “yes” to technology improvement, to intensive cultivation (so everybody can eat), to medicine technology improvement, to communication technology improvement, to shortening work time (to get more family & fun time), to learning and self developing.

So, don’t be envious to any kind of extreme, act wisely and choose the best decisions for you.

Sincerely

Dr. Uri Ben Nesher

]]> By: Dr. Uri Ben Nesher http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-194 Dr. Uri Ben Nesher Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:00:38 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-194 Dear Dr. Ichak Kalderon Adizes. It is all about optimize decisions making and choosing the best way we want to go. It is wrong to automatically say "no" as it wrong to automatically say "yes". Dear Dr. Ichak Kalderon Adizes.

It is all about optimize decisions making and choosing the best way we want to go.
It is wrong to automatically say “no” as it wrong to automatically say “yes”.

]]> By: Ben http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-13 Ben Fri, 07 Aug 2009 07:39:12 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-13 I heartily agree ... the adaptation vs. maverick position is a great distinction. Conventional wisdom for business or personal development tends to be nothing more than how to operate within this increasingly ineffective (and deluded) convention of behaviour. Stepping outside all of this and seeing things clearly is what's needed ... and is why I always enjoy stopping by from time to time to read your fresh thinking. Thanks for sharing. PS. I smiled when you mentioned Osho ... I've been immersed in his books over the last year and is proving to be such a blessing. He covers so much terrain ... I recently enjoyed his texts on Zen, Tao (Lieh Tzu, Chuang Tzu), Buddha's Suttras, and Yoga ... wonderful! It's such nourishment for accurate thinking and awareness. PPS. I love your analysis of language and language roots in some of your earlier "Insight" editions. It's easy to forget to what degree language is our lens ... and so this type of inquiry/comparison is always so valuable (I've enjoyed Osho's insights into this also). I heartily agree … the adaptation vs. maverick position is a great distinction. Conventional wisdom for business or personal development tends to be nothing more than how to operate within this increasingly ineffective (and deluded) convention of behaviour. Stepping outside all of this and seeing things clearly is what’s needed … and is why I always enjoy stopping by from time to time to read your fresh thinking.

Thanks for sharing.

PS. I smiled when you mentioned Osho … I’ve been immersed in his books over the last year and is proving to be such a blessing. He covers so much terrain … I recently enjoyed his texts on Zen, Tao (Lieh Tzu, Chuang Tzu), Buddha’s Suttras, and Yoga … wonderful! It’s such nourishment for accurate thinking and awareness.

PPS. I love your analysis of language and language roots in some of your earlier “Insight” editions. It’s easy to forget to what degree language is our lens … and so this type of inquiry/comparison is always so valuable (I’ve enjoyed Osho’s insights into this also).

]]> By: Alejandro Escobar http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-12 Alejandro Escobar Fri, 07 Aug 2009 07:38:50 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-12 Hello Ichak: Great articel I really love it. I am going to share it with every one. So today we start to say no. And I will establish a NO day at least once a months. Thanks. Hello Ichak:

Great articel I really love it. I am going to share it with every one.

So today we start to say no. And I will establish a NO day at least once a months.

Thanks.

]]> By: Peter Pintus, Ph.D. http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-11 Peter Pintus, Ph.D. Fri, 07 Aug 2009 07:38:27 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-11 Dr. Ichak, Thank you for your words! I agree that learning to say "no" can have many physical, mental, and spiritual benefits. I believe that learning to say "no" can also help in simplifying one's life. In my Work as Worship seminar, I quote the reknowned Quaker minister Lloyd Lee Wilson. In a 1993 speech he said, "The simple life is one in which there is always time to remember the divine purpose behind each of our tasks, time to listen for a possible divine amendment to the day’s schedule, and time to be thankful for the divine presence at each moment of the day." This can only happen when we say "no" and begin to rearrange the moments in our lives. Avodah! Dr. Ichak, Thank you for your words! I agree that learning to say “no” can have many physical, mental, and spiritual benefits. I believe that learning to say “no” can also help in simplifying one’s life. In my Work as Worship seminar, I quote the reknowned Quaker minister Lloyd Lee Wilson. In a 1993 speech he said, “The simple life is one in which there is always time to remember the divine purpose behind each of our tasks, time to listen for a possible divine amendment to the day’s schedule, and time to be thankful for the divine presence at each moment of the day.” This can only happen when we say “no” and begin to rearrange the moments in our lives. Avodah!

]]> By: prangovac http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-9 prangovac Fri, 07 Aug 2009 07:37:29 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-9 Hi dear ginius Adizes , I see that you decidedly readyng Osho ! I complete hold with you ,for saying "NO" .In fact ,if in today modern time ,we dont have ability to say "NO",we are lost .Main reason its that we are bombing from evehery said with defront influence ,how minimayze are freedom to said "NO" ! Graet Hello from Prangovac - Serbya Hi dear ginius Adizes ,
I see that you decidedly readyng Osho ! I complete hold with you ,for saying “NO” .In fact ,if in today modern time ,we dont have ability to say “NO”,we are lost .Main reason its that we are bombing from evehery said with defront influence ,how minimayze are freedom to said “NO” !
Graet Hello from Prangovac – Serbya

]]> By: Kjetil Sandermoen http://www.adizes.com/blog/?p=76&cpage=1#comment-8 Kjetil Sandermoen Fri, 07 Aug 2009 07:37:10 +0000 http://www.adizes.com/wp/?p=76#comment-8 A great insight again! Thank you. I believe that Darwin would have agreed with you however, because the survivor today will join your religion and say "No" - that is why they will be the fittest. We have imposed a very dangerous environment upon ourselves and I think that the real "adaptors" are the conscious ones and the ones that just go with the current - the unconscious ones - will not survive very well or very long. I come to think of a Danish proverb saying something like "of food and wine, a little too little is just enough"!! The insight has always been there, we are just to busy to be aware! A great insight again! Thank you. I believe that Darwin would have agreed with you however, because the survivor today will join your religion and say “No” – that is why they will be the fittest. We have imposed a very dangerous environment upon ourselves and I think that the real “adaptors” are the conscious ones and the ones that just go with the current – the unconscious ones – will not survive very well or very long.
I come to think of a Danish proverb saying something like “of food and wine, a little too little is just enough”!! The insight has always been there, we are just to busy to be aware!

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